However, to get to your innate and healthy sexuality, first, you need to overcome your possible porn addiction. There is nothing wrong with being gay when previously you thought you were straight, vice versa, or even realizing you are bisexual. Seek support from people in your life who will help you work through what you're feeling. If you discover after rebooting that you feel that you have a sexual orientation that's different from what you previously thought it was, remember to keep practicing self-acceptance. This feeling can be every bit as confusing for these men, and again it can be strongly beneficial to reboot and see if a period of abstaining from using porn or masturbating to porn fantasies changes your desire to use this kind of porn over time. It's also important to recognize that developing different tastes to what you consider innate can also affect men who know they are gay but feel drawn to genres like "hardcore" heterosexual porn or lesbian porn. Remember that the "Coolidge Effect" of needing ever more novelty in the types of porn they require to orgasm might account for a good deal of unusual or unwanted sexual tastes developing for many men. Rebooting appears to be one of the surest ways for men to discover if their tastes, including developing a taste for gay sex, have resulted from escalation and desensitization. This misalignment can be especially true if gay porn holds some 'taboo' charge for you. &.)įor this reason, if you have begun to develop tastes for gay porn stars that don't align with your innate sexual orientation, you are likely experiencing similar mechanisms to users who escalate to fetish porn that doesn't align with their natural tastes. Satisfaction becomes more elusive and drives continued unwanted activity." (Wilson G. Interestingly, addiction and OCD produce similar anomalies in the brain's reward circuitry. He is like a person who can't stop checking to see if the stove turns off.
Then he masturbates to relieve the anxiety produced. a user may keep testing to see if a particular porn genre is arousing-because he happens to find that prospect horrifying (and exciting). Using porn or porn fantasies that don't align with their innate sexual orientation can be a source of stress, anxiety, and even deep disgust for a subset of people. In this case, it would be a strong indication of novelty-seeking behavior that doesn't reflect your innate sexual orientation.
However, should you know you didn't have those kinds of sexual fantasies or leanings before you started using porn. Only you will be able to discover in time whether you are homosexual or have a genuine interest in actual sex with men. Watching Gay Porn Could Be A Novelty-Seeking Behavior